Investing in Others – Becoming a Mentor

Posted on January 12, 2014 Updated on November 30, 2023

I have been very fortunate throughout my career. There have been incredible opportunities, risks with big rewards, and lessons learned from mistakes and failure (e.g., one of the biggest lessons learned early is that most mistakes will not kill you, and therefore you can find a way to recover from them). In hindsight, the people who saw something in me and invested in my career – my mentors – have been most valuable in shaping my career.

None of these people had to help me. It’s possible that they did so for their own benefit (i.e., the better I do my job, the easier it is for them), but I believe they were passing along a valuable gift. I was lucky to have been given these gifts early in my career, as they have been invaluable personally and professionally.

As a mentee may not recognize either the value of what you are receiving, or the effort that has gone into providing that gift to you. You fully appreciate what others have done for you only years later.

In my first programming job, my manager (Jim) assigned me to work with different key people and would follow up every time to ask what I had learned. One day he gave me my first project. I was excited but anxious because I did not want to fail my mentor.

I only had six months of experience, and this was a big project for an important automotive customer (Subaru, for the first fully customized customer loyalty coupon system for a major auto manufacturer in the late 1980s). It was a stretch for me, and the system had to be production-ready in six months.

Jim let me build it, checked daily to see if I had questions, and would provide feedback and direction if I asked. Aside from that he pretty much left me alone. He seemed more confident in my ability to succeed than I did at the time.

After two months, I thought I was finished. We reviewed everything, and Jim constructively picked apart my system – pointing out various flaws and then discussing the logic and reasoning behind my decisions. We spent half a day on this exercise, and it was only years later I realized that he was helping me learn more than simply validating the system design.

After another two months, we reviewed this system’s second iteration. He told me while this version would work and would be acceptable from anyone else, I still had time remaining, and he was confident that I could do even better next time. He provided a couple of tips about high-level areas he focused on while designing and developing systems and left it at that.

When I returned with the third iteration system, he reviewed it, smiled, and said he could not have done this better himself. At first, I was proud of completing my first independent project, but later I realized how much I had learned in those six months. This experience provided me with a lifelong benefit as well as provided the motivation to help others in a similar manner. My mentor was (and still is) a great leader!

As a manager this person had so many reasons not to give me the project, to just tell me what to do, and to not let me redo it (twice). From a short-term management perspective, what he did was wasteful. But, from a big-picture perspective, he was doing things that helped me create more value for the company for the 3-4 years I continued working there. The benefits outweighed the cost; Jim was wise enough to see that.

Several years ago, a young woman in Australia contacted me via LinkedIn, asking for suggestions on improving her skills to advance her career. I gave her many assignments over a year and she did amazing work. She advanced in her company, later relocated to another country, and then switched industries. She currently holds a high-level position and has been very successful. It made me feel good knowing that my efforts played a small part in her advancement.

From my perspective, it all comes down to how you view people and relationships. Are they like commodities that are used and replaced as needed, or are they assets that can grow in value?  I like to think that I have helped several people’s “career portfolios,” which helps ensure that business is not a zero-sum game. Hopefully, those people will do the same thing, increasing leverage on those investments that started with Jim.

So, what do you think?